A 79 year-old Christian man is concerned about "robbing the cradle" by marrying a woman who is only 71. He also has concerns about what his family will think. What does the Bible say about situations like this?
 AT ISSUE
I am a widower aged 79. I have met a wonderful Christian widow lady who is 71. We want to be married, but my children don't think it's a good idea. Also, I'm concerned about the age difference between my sweetheart and myself.
 OUR INSIGHT
Isn't love wonderful? God bless you for having a heart filled with love for this Christian lady and for your willingness to consider your children's view of things.
Would Jesus approve of your marriage? We know he thought the wedding at Cana was a great place to do his first miracle (John 2) and Jesus has been a part of many miracle marriages since then!
However, your children may have legitimate concerns which you should think about. You are caught-up in the excitement of new love and that sometimes blinds us, regardless of our age. Ask your children what they think of your sweetheart as a person and as a Christian. If you dislike the answer, ask the same questions of a trusted Christian friend or your pastor. Don't rush into matrimony without a second (and third!) opinion.
If you have raised your children as Christians, they may have concerns about financial stewardship. They are probably concerned that you conserve your assets for medical or other needs. Also, if there is any residue from your estate in the future it should probably go to your children and grandchildren rather than to your new bride or her family.
You should talk about these matters freely with your children and with your sweetheart. A prenuptial agreement drawn by a lawyer would be totally appropriate in a case such as this.
It is a wonderful thing to have companionship, and I'm sure your children appreciate that. And don't worry about the age difference -- you're blessed if you have what it takes to attract younger women!
-DLH
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